Voted #1 in Coloradobiz Magazine!

It is our honor to be voted #1 by over 20,000 voters in coloradobiz Magazine’s, 2018 Best of Colorado Business Choice Awards. Horan & McConaty was voted best Funeral/Cremation Service business among 87 other business category winners. We attribute this honor to our tremendous team of direct caregivers and support staff, a reflection of their … Read moreVoted #1 in Coloradobiz Magazine!

Caregiver of the Month – Kathy Nelson

Kathy Nelson is the winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty. She was nominated by Sally Carey. I’m honored to nominate Kathy Nelson for the Hospice Caregiver Award. I’ve had the pleasure of working with Kathy for the past 4+ years. In that time, Kathy has revealed an impressive depth of knowledge of … Read moreCaregiver of the Month – Kathy Nelson

3 Tips for Helping Children and Youth Understand Funeral Services and Death

As a parent, you have a natural instinct to protect your child from harm. Some wish to spare their children the pain and sorrow of a funeral. However, excluding your child from a ceremony or ritual could do more harm than good, denying them the opportunity to grieve and be with others who are mourning. … Read more3 Tips for Helping Children and Youth Understand Funeral Services and Death

3 Tips for Helping Children and Youth Understand Funeral Services and Death

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As a parent, you have a natural instinct to protect your child from harm. Some wish to spare their children the pain and sorrow of a funeral. However, excluding your child from a ceremony or ritual could do more harm than good, denying them the opportunity to grieve and be with others who are mourning. In this article we will explain how best help your child to understand the service and rituals following the loss of a loved one.

1. Answer questions before the ceremony. This will give your child the opportunity to ask any questions they might have about their loved one and what happens next. When answering your child’s questions, be sure to keep it simple and avoid using euphemisms. Explain your loved one can no longer think, breathe, feel pain, cold, or hot and that their body has simply stopped working. Using terms such as, “passed away” or “deep sleep” could further confuse your child.

2. Inform your child what to expect. Whether your loved one will be cremated, have an open casket ceremony or a closed one, it is important to let your child know what they will see and experience during these services. Go over the ceremony or ritual schedule in detail including what they will see, who will be doing what and why.

Explain to your child that cremation happens when your loved one is placed into a special box and transported to a crematory. A crematory is place that gets so hot (hotter than the hottest desert), it turns a person’s body into something like gray sand. From there, the sand is placed into a very special container called an urn. Avoid using words like flames, burning and fire.

If your loved with is having an open casket ceremony, contact your Horan & McConaty Funeral Director to schedule a private viewing before the service. This will give ample time for your child to ask questions and know what to expect when viewing the deceased. If your child wishes to touch your loved one, demonstrate how by gently brushing along the hand or hair.

For closed casket ceremonies, questions of being afraid of the dark may be asked, simply remind your child they can no longer become scared, cold, or feel pain. Our funeral directors are present for further explanation if needed on why the casket remains closed.

3. Create a sense of choice and control. It’s okay if children choose not to attend a service but encourage them to do so. Schedule a tour with a Horan & McConaty Funeral Director of the facility where the service will take place. A sense of familiarity with the area can go long way if your child becomes anxious or nervous. Have a designated relative or care taker who can take your child for a walk or away from the ceremony if they feel overwhelmed. Present the option of going to a friend’s house, or even the opportunity to invite their peers. This shared experience will help friends adjust to your child’s new norm, making it less awkward and easier to talk about in the future.

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Caregiver of the Month – Heather Neubauer

Heather Neubauer is the winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty. She was nominated by Meg Paraspolo. I would like to nominate one of our CNAs for the Caregiver of the Month Award. Heather Neubauer provides amazing and compassionate care for all of her patients, but I am nominating her for this … Read moreCaregiver of the Month – Heather Neubauer

Caregiver of the Month – Chaplain Winn Allison

  Chaplain Winn Allison is the winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty. He was nominated by the Lutheran Hospice Team. Dean, a hospice patient who had served in the military during the Korean War had only one dying wish; to be buried in his Marine dress uniform.  Through the years of multiple moves, … Read moreCaregiver of the Month – Chaplain Winn Allison

Caregiver of the Month – Kristi Knight

Kristi Knight is the winner of the Hospice Caregiver Award presented by Horan & McConaty.  She was nominated by Sharon Wharton. It is my pleasure to nominate Kristi Knight for the Hospice Caregiver Award. I have worked with Kristi for over a year, and she continues to inspire me with her kindness, generosity, and strength in … Read moreCaregiver of the Month – Kristi Knight